Sunday, 1 March 2015

Many Hats

Today’s mothers, are better off than their own mothers were, and being a mother today is preferable to being one in the 1990s or before. It is indeed the Golden Age of Motherhood. Many women have more choices than men do.
The origin of motherhood dates back to two million years ago. Throughout our evolution, motherhood has been positioned within supportive social frameworks, allowing mothers to develop bonds with their infants while also being a productive member of the group.
It’s natural for mothers to work, gain a sense of personal identity beyond the private domestic roles. It’s natural for mothers to take care of children. What’s unnatural is for mothers to be the sole caretakers of children, not have more support. It takes a village to raise a child, a village of trained, loving, committed and passionate individuals.
The issue of guilt often arises in my discussions with mothers about balancing the pressures of work and childcare. This guilt takes roots when you are unable to take action – actions that are in the very best interest of your child. With a little help, we can uproot these forever.
Children are sticklers for routines, and if this routine is set within the parameters of scientific data, your child is at a greater advantage. So while choosing a daycare for your child look for a place that allows them to explore, do more, learn more, laugh more, and be more. The companionship helps them to try new food, food which nourishes and helps boost the brain development. Young children are forming attitudes and behaviors that will influence them throughout their lives. It is important to expose them to experiences that foster their ability to make good health decisions, develop a positive self-image, make healthy nutrition choices, and show respect for their bodies.
Younglings are actively developing their sense of self and who they are in the world. It is important to have good teachers. Teachers create respectful and diverse learning environments, helping children understand the world they inhabit. Teachers also present unique experiences for children, enhancing a child’s sense of responsibility and compassion for people.
Artistic exploration encourages important skills such as creative thinking, adaptation, problem-solving, innovation, and follow-through. Teachers nurture children’s own artistic abilities and help them appreciate art in the broader world by engaging in diverse creative experiences.
Vocabulary expands from a few hundred words to a few thousand and word comprehension takes off during the preschool years. The programs and curriculum should provide children with opportunities to integrate listening, speaking, early reading, and writing into daily activities.
Whether they are counting how many marbles they have, fitting a cylinder into a circular hole, or asking for more milk, children are constantly using and experimenting with math concepts. Preschool teachers should create learning experiences that build math skills and reasoning so children can solve problems and use mathematics in real and meaningful ways.
The activities are woven together in the common tapestry of independence, for you and your child, so each can be a part of the community which brings out the best in you. For a working mother, it’s her workplace and for the child, well it’s his workplace too!

(Researched and written by Shivani Pujar)

Friday, 27 February 2015

Mother's Prayer

Mothering little people is an act of courage, most of the times done alone. Maybe that's why mothers always have a prayer in their heart, wishing for the very best for their child.
It's challenging, but ten times more rewarding. Nothing compares the joy of sweet chubby hugs, chocolate kisses, holding miniature fingers, stroking sleepy heads, watching little minds grasp and grow; the wonders of every day. You've watched your tiny bundle turn into a toddler who is now ready to move onto the most important milestone of starting school. Are you ready to hand over the reins of the stroller over to a teacher?
A decade ago mothers aspired to be “Supermom,” today’s mothers aim to be pragmatic, efficient and rooted in reality. They are savvy. They weigh the price against the benefits of the product. A mother wants to feel taken care of once on board. She needs the assurance that her child will be taken care of, especially in the first few weeks. When she assures her child that the teacher will take care of you, she needs to say it with a belief that the little one will indeed be taken care of. The separation anxiety is a collaboration of both, the mother and the child. Children pick up on this anxiety. On the other hand, if the mother is indeed at peace that her child's tears will be wiped by a loving adult who is also trained, it makes the goodbyes that much easier. It gives establishing a new routine the much-needed boost. 
Transparency and trust are two sides of the same coin. They say mothers have eyes in the back of their heads. I would take it a step further and give them eyes when their child is in the school. Cameras in school provide a live feed to the mother's phone or tablet or laptop. She can be a passive participant as the child moves from one activity to other. And also because there's a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall? How the hands got sparkly? How the food was eaten independently? How a joke was shared with a new friend? Sometimes the stories are simple, and I would like the mother to see those unfold before her eyes. 
(Researched and written by Shivani Pujar)

A lovely composition by Celine Dion: